Last Updated on June 11, 2025 by Kelly
The orgasm is a destination that all horny folk share. (Well, unless your fetish is not getting an orgasm!)
However, the journey to that orgasm can be different for each person. Some partners I’ve had are so sensitive, getting them to explode multiple times is as easy as a herd of elephants running across a minefield.
For others, I feel like I have to crack the safe of Fort Knox to get them to cum.
That’s the beauty of sex; everyone’s different, and what does it for you may not for another person, and that includes sex toys as well.
If you’re new to this world, you may not know the technique that will give you that O-face. I recommend you experiment and see what works and what doesn’t.
This post is merely a guide that can help you on your journey to self-discovery and getting that orgasm.
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Which Dildo Techniques Can Help You Orgasm?
Let’s look at some basic dildo techniques that can help you reach an amazing orgasm!
The Classic “In ‘n’ Out” Method
No, we’re not talking about the burger place. Though after you reach orgasm, you may want to go for some food.
This is the basic technique that you may have done already when you use the dildo.
You thrust the dildo inside of you, then out, and out. You may speed up the pace the wetter you get, or go a little deeper, but it’s pretty straightforward.
This method is great for both vaginal or anal, and despite it being straightforward, you can vary it. Use a textured or curved dildo.
Do a little rocking motion as you thrust inside of yourself. Mix it up, and you’ll feel all mixed up in the best way possible.
The Exciting “Do the Twist” “Move Your Body” for Enhanced Sensation
The twist isn’t just a dance your grandparents did! This technique involves inserting the dildo until it hits your G-spot, then twisting it like you were opening a door with a key.
Except you’re unlocking an orgasm. While you try this, move your hips around and see what undiscovered areas you may hit.
Also, this technique is best used with a straight dildo.
The Go Deep or Go Home Method
Some love to plunge that dildo deep inside themselves and go as deep as possible. They may thrust back and forth, or keep it inside of them.
That being said, be sure that you’re wet or lubed up enough for this. You don’t want to feel pain or an uncomfortable sensation.
That is not part of the deal.
Short and Shallow Thrusting
But you don’t need to go deep; some sensitive folk only need to go so far. If you’re someone like this, you may only reach for the clit or the G-spot.
Stay on your back, as this will give you enough control.
The beauty of these techniques is that there is no wrong way to do them, and you don’t need to be committed to just one.
You can mix it up or try a new technique every session.
Types of Dildos and How They Can Help You Orgasm
The technique is important, but the instrument can also have a big impact. Let’s look at several types of dildos you can buy and explain how they can help.
Realistic Dildos
A realistic dildo looks just like a real penis, but without the extra baggage attached to it. Just kidding.
But I know some who have gotten burned by their boyfriends, and they aren’t ready for a relationship yet. So a fake dick is the next best thing.
Besides the idea of imagining a real penis thrusting in you, a realistic dildo also has bumps, veins, and a shaft based on a real penis.
Others may include balls you can play around with.
A realistic dildo is obviously not suitable for those repulsed by a real penis.
Also, many dildos of this type are made from porous materials, so use a condom or get one made from silicone!
Glass Dildos
You may like a dildo that’s made from glass for several reasons. First, this dildo is thick and unbending, and some like having that inside of them.
The unique colors and designs can also be a turn-on if you’re an artistic type. When you get a glass dildo all lubed, it can be slippery and fun!
Not only that, but a glass dildo is compatible with silicone lube.
What this fact means is that you don’t need to reapply the lube again and again. Some water-based lubes can be such a hassle with this, and it can be a turn-off.
Finally, a glass dildo can be heated or cooled for temperature play.
The only downside to glass dildos is that while they’re made from tough stuff, you should throw them away if they’ve taken any visible damage.
Otherwise, they’re safe to use!
Curved Dildos
The G-spot can be as hard to find as your keys falling between the couch cushions, depending on your build.
A curved dildo can help you reach the G-spot when it feels difficult to achieve.
Curved dildos can be sold, like glass or metal, or have a little bend to them, like silicone.
Curved dildos work well, but some people may not want to use a curved dildo all of the time.
So be sure that you have another dildo when you need something straighter.
Ribbed Dildos
Ever heard the phrase “Ribbed for her pleasure?” These ribbed dildos feature textures along their entire shaft, allowing them to hit multiple sensitive areas simultaneously.
And when those ribs go in and out of you, it can make you hit cloud 9! But ribbed sensations are not for everyone,
But some people can’t get enough of the feeling.
Suction Cup Dildos
These dildos have a suction cup base, which will stick to flat, hard surfaces no problem. This suction lets you have a little me-time with the toy without needing hands.
You can put the dildo on your shower wall, your floor, on the table, and anywhere else you dare!
If you have a partner who loves strap-on play, many harnesses are compatible with suction cup dildos, too.
It depends on what harness you got, but it’s worth a shot! No real downsides to suction cup dildos, except the suction cup can fray over time.
Fantasy Dildos
Ever wanted to get ravaged by a dragon? Be a helpless anime girl fighting a tentacle monster? Get probed by a being not from this Earth?
You can’t do that (yet), but you can get a fantasy dildo. These dildos are shaped like the pensises of fictional creatures, and they can come in very unique shapes and textures.
The downsides are that these dildos tend to be for a very niche audience. You don’t need to be a full-on furry to like them, but it does help to have some interest.
Also, these dildos tend to be expensive, but they’re usually handmade, and the quality shows!
Beginner Dildos
Okay, what is “Beginner” in the eye of the beholder? But usually, a beginner dildo is a non-textured dildo that looks like a toy.
It’s typically average-length, not too girthy, and non-intimidating even to the most intimidated individuals.
Beginner dildos may come in a starter pack as well. For example, you may buy a pack of three dildos that are small, medium, and large in length.
It’s great for experimenting! The only downside is that if you’re experienced, a beginner dildo may be a little dull.
But these still work as a little appetizer to the appetizer of foreplay.
Inflatable Dildos
This dildo looks ordinary, and then you hit its pump. Then, it starts to blow up. If you’re new to being stretched out, an inflatable dildo can be a great place to start!
You insert the dildo uninflated, then begin to blow it up. When the feeling is a little much, you just press the release button, and it’s back to normal.
You don’t need to worry about the dildo getting stuck inside of you if all goes wrong.
The only downside is that the pump is usually attached to the dildo, meaning travel can be a hassle.
Double Dildos
These didos have two sides to them. They tend to be long, as they’re meant to be used by two people. Double dildos can be amazing for vaginal to vaginal or ass to ass.
Though I think of that one scene in Requiem for a Dream every time I try to do it, and that’s an immediate turn-off.
With that said, you don’t need to have a partner to benefit from a double dildo.
You can bend this dildo and get both heads into both holes. This does depend on how bendable the dildo is, so your mileage may vary.
While fun, a double-dildo is bulky, so it’s not exactly travel-friendly.
And honestly, despite it working for single-use, I prefer a classic dildo if I’m going to masturbate alone.
Vibrating Dildos
These vibrating dildos have a motor inside of them that vibrates in different intensities and patterns. Some of them are waterproof, which means using them in the bath or shower is no problem.
Some vibrators, such as the ones from Lovense, can connect to an app where customizing patterns is possible. Also, you can even sync them to music or VR porn! Futuristic!
The only downside is that you have to keep up with charging the dildo, or replacing its battery if it still uses AA/AAA/another variant.
Also, you have to worry about mechanical failure. If you’re investing a good amount of money in a vibrator, be sure its warranty covers everything.
Many more types of dildos can be used to reach orgasm. See my post here to explore some of them.
Focus on Your Pleasure Spots
One of the best ways to cum fast is to hit your pleasure spots, which can depend on your sex.
Exploring the G-Spot
The G-spot gets its name from Ernst Gräfenberg, a male German physician who founded the spot. With such a name, it’s no wonder we just say “G.”
Also, he proves that some men can find the G-spot!
Funny enough, there’s controversy as to whether this part exists or not. We have advanced AI nowadays, but we don’t know if the G-spot is a thing.
Science is strange, right?
Well, I’m a firm believer it exists. When you place a finger or toy inside of you, try to explore a little. Use a curved dildo if you have to.
For many women, the G-spot is toward the belly button, a couple of inches inside.
When you feel it, you’ll know. But if you don’t feel it, that’s okay! You can still have some incredible orgasms.
One thing you need to understand is that everybody is different, and you may not have a G-spot as intense as someone else, or it’s in a weird location.
As long as you’re feeling good, that’s all that matters.
Exploring the P-spot
The P-spot is a little less mysterious. It’s the prostate, found in male-bodied people. A healthy G-spot is the size of a walnut, and once you know where yours is, you may have intense orgasms.
The P-spot is best reached via a prostate dildo or some clever finger work. Since the anus doesn’t have any natural lubricant, use lube! And start small.
Depending on who you are, the anus can be sensitive. Oh, and wash yourself out, obviously.
Discovering the A-spot
Yes, there’s another spot! Anterior fornix, or the deepest recesses of your vagina, can be an amazing spot.
This area is next to your cervix, and it requires some deep penetration to reach.
You don’t need to get out the Sizemaster 3000 to reach the A-spot. A few more inches than the P-spot, and you should be there.
The A-spot can also be reached through the back door, if you know what I mean. So if you’re a lady who’s interested in anal, it may be worth a try.
Best Positions for Dildos
You can try many positions with a dildo, especially if you have a suction cup to stick to the wall.
Here are some basic positions to get started:
Perfecting Missionary
Missionary is commonly considered the “Vanilla” position. But joke’s on you; I like vanilla. This position involves you lying on your back.
If you need a bit of reach because your arms are too short, put a pillow behind your head and neck or under your hips.
The pillow can prop up your upper or lower body.
Enjoying Cowgirl and Cowpoke
This position is basically a squat. The position is best enjoyed with a suction cup dildo that can stick to your floor, but you can use a free arm, too.
Just lower yourself and then ride ‘em, cowgirl. You can mix up this position as well by being on your knees to avoid thigh burn.
Another great suction cup position is to put the dildo on a chair, then sit on the chair and ride!
Be sure that the chair is sturdy and can support your weight and aggression!
The Thrill of Doggy Style
Doggy style, or all fours, is a fantastic position if you want it deep inside of you. This position is a little tricky if you don’t have a suction cup dildo to stick on the wall.
With a bit of finesse, you can get on all three instead and use a free hand to insert them inside of you. One tip I’ll give you as well is to be sure that you’re comfortable.
Get on all fours on your bed, not the hard floor. That tip seems obvious, but I’ve gotten drunk and skinned my knees trying this position, so heed my warning.
Advanced Tips for Enjoying Your Dildo Experience
Still having trouble? You may need some advanced tips and to think outside the box. Let’s look at a few unconventional tips to get yourself aroused before I get out of here.
Role-Playing
The best way to get in the mood can sometimes be to act like someone you’re not. Fantasy dildos are a great example of this, but if you’re not attracted to that, there are other ways.
Have a realistic dildo be the man of your dreams. Maybe dress up as a nurse or put on a cosplay of your favorite anime character.
I’m not judging.
Temperature Play
You’d be surprised how much a temperature change can be a game-changer. Metal or glass dildos can be heated or cooled to your pleasure.
Heat a dildo using hot water, and chill it with cold water or put it in the freezer. Avoid the oven or microwave, especially for metal dildos.
Do I even need to explain why?
Incorporating Dildos in Partnered Sex
Sex toys are not just for singles. They are a great foreplay tool for every gender or couple type.
Share a double dildo, have your partner reach spots that your arms or a suction cup cannot, and feel free to use them before, during, or after the main show!
