Best Sex Toys For Arthritis – Easy-to-Use & Comfortable Options

Last Updated on August 26, 2026 by Kelly

Arthritis can make enjoying the things you used to love much more difficult, including sex. 

But what if there were sex toys that are not only friendly for arthritic hands, but can help with arthritis as well?

Obviously, I’m not saying these toys will cure arthritis (yet!), but they can help to relieve pain and get your hands moving. 

Using these, along with medicine, therapy, and lifestyle changes, may help you live a better life. 

So, let’s look at the health benefits of sex toys for arthritis, what the best toys are, and how to get the most out of them!

Benefits of Sex Toys for Arthritis

For a while, it’s been known that sexual activity can reduce the pain of arthritis. Some folk with arthritis may be afraid to have sex, as they fear sex will make things worse. 

However, not having sex can ironically worsen your arthritis. Sex toys offer the same benefits.  When you use them, your blood gets glowing, which promotes cartilage health. 

You’ll also feel less inflamed and less in pain, with one reason being that sexual activities release endorphins, the feel-good pain-relieving chemical. 

Sex toys can also help to improve your muscles, which can promote joint health. Exercise in general can help with arthritis, not only through muscle maintenance but via weight control. 

Another reason why sex toys can help is through vibrations. Whole-body vibration therapy has been one way for people with arthritis to reduce their pain. 

While vibrators are on a much smaller scale, today’s models are powerful and can easily target problematic areas.

That being said, results may vary, and vibrators are no substitute for medication, therapy, and other lifestyle changes!

Also Read: Best Sex Toys For Seniors

What To Look For in a Good Toy for Arthritis

Type & Design of the Toy

The type of toy is essential if you’re looking for an arthritis-friendly vibrator. Toys with long, ergonomic handles can make it easier to use them without hurting your hands. 

It also depends on how the toy is shaped: if it’s curved or long enough to go inside of you without much work on your end, all the better!

The In-Use Handle Features of the Vibrator

Some toys will have handles with controls to make it easier for you to customize your experience without feeling much pain. 

On the other hand, there are toys available with remote controls or controllable via a mobile app, which can make your experience smoother.

Hands-Free-Feature

If you have trouble using your hands without them hurting, you should look for a toy that’s hands-free. 

There are thrusting dildos and male masturbators that work quite well with minimal hand input.  These toys can cost a little more, but most will find the additional cost worth it. 

Size and Weight

How long is the toy? The more reach it has, the less hand work you have to do. Also, how much does it weigh? 

You may want a lightweight toy so that it won’t be too much of a burden on your hands. However, a little weight can keep the toy stable inside you. 

Smaller vibrators can also be worth considering if you want something lightweight and easy to handle.

Our guide to the best bullet vibrators covers some compact options.

Length of Battery Life

Since you may want to give yourself a little vibration therapy, you’ll want a toy that lasts a long time. 

Ideally, a USB-rechargeable toy is great, as it requires less hassle. Some toys even have super-fast charging, where the toy is almost at full charge in just a few minutes. 

With that said, remember that for most toys, the battery life will depend on how intense you set the vibration speeds and patterns to. 

More intense settings will shorten the battery life, and vice versa.

Waterproof

A waterproof toy is ideal for two reasons. 

First, it’s easier for you to wash. You could pop it in the dishwasher and not have to worry about it for a long while. 

Second, if you have arthritis, a good way for you to feel some relief is a hot bath or shower, and a waterproof toy lets you have fun with the toy without worrying about it breaking. 

Look for toys labeled “Submersible,” or IPX7, which will let you submerge the toy for up to 30 minutes. 

6 Best Toys

1. Liberator Sex Position Wedge Ramp Combo – Best Sex Pillow

If you and your partner want to have sex, this pillow can be great for that. Elevated pillows are an essential tool for anyone with arthritis, who is elderly, or has another disability that prevents them from getting into a good position. 

This pillow set can be used together or separately. Not only that, but its responsive core means that both partners can be on the pillow set and be supported steadily.

Now, this pillow set is a little bit expensive, leading some people to wonder if they could just use the pillows they have for support. 

However, these cushions are made to support and conform to the shape of the human body, and are much sturdier than a regular cushion. 

They are also designed for the long game!

Finally, this toy is also great for arthritic individuals because it’s easy to wash. Just remove its microfiber cover and pop it in the wash. That’s all!

Lovense Vulse – Best Hands-Free Thruster

The Vulse is a thrusting egg toy. Thrusters will move inside and out of you like a penis, but involve no movement from you once inserted. 

Lovense offers powerful thrusting power at up to 120 strokes a minute, with deep vibrations to boot. 

Lovense, if you haven’t heard of them, is a line of smart toys controllable via the Remote app. 

But you don’t need to be on your phone all the time to control it! Lovense lets you sync vibrations to your music playlists, or the sounds around you. 

Aside from being waterproof, easy to recharge, and able to run for an hour on a single charge, this is a great toy not only for arthritis sufferers, but for people from all walks of life.

That being said, these toys are a bit expensive, and if you’re older, the bells and whistles may be too much for you. 

There are other sex toys in the market that thrust, but without the app. However, Lovense does have manual controls on their toys as well, but they are more limited. 

If you’re interested in the Vulse specifically, you can read our Lovense Vulse review for a closer look at its features and performance.

Lelo Smart Wand – Best Handle for Arthritis

Wands can be a great toy if you have arthritis, as it’s easy to target and massage a certain part of your body. 

And they don’t necessarily have to be used for sex. Many couples who don’t even own other toys may have a massager just for stiff muscles. 

This wand is great when you have arthritis due to its long, curved handle, making it easy to reach certain spots without needing to do complicated hand movements in the process. 

Plus, it’s relatively lightweight and simple to clean due to its waterproof nature. The wand has 10 settings and is also whisper-quiet. 

That being said, the wand is expensive. There are others on the market, some of which are much smaller and more lightweight. 

I would recommend shopping around before making a decision, and that applies to any toy on this list. 

Fun Factory – Most Lightweight Vibrator

This is a traditional vibrator, with a ribbed shape for your pleasure. 

It doesn’t have any insane bells and whistles, instead delivering several speeds and patterns with a whopping 3 hours of playtime. Also, it’s waterproof for easy cleaning. 

That being said, its big appeal is its lightweight. If you have arthritis, carrying a normal-weighted vibrator can be hell on your hands. 

This vibrator is 216g, or a little under half a pound. In other words, you can carry it for a long time without your hands hurting. 

Lovehoney Thermo – Best Anal Toy

This is a prostate toy, making it ideal for males, or those assigned male at birth. However, it can also work for women as well. 

What makes this prostate vibrator ideal for arthritic folk is twofold. First, the toy is a thruster, meaning you can get hands-free pleasure from using it. 

And second, the toy can warm up to 111 degrees Fahrenheit (43.8 Celsius), which can soothe your muscles and make you melt. 

The thruster has three thrusting patterns and six vibration speeds. You can also control the toy via a lightweight remote. 

The toy is waterproof, which allows you to clean it with little hassle, and it has 4.5 insertable inches. 

This makes the toy not too intimidating for newcomers to prostate play. 

ROMP Reverb – Best Suction

Finally, let’s talk about clitoral suction toys. These toys can work well for people with arthritis, as once they suck, they don’t stop until you tell them to. 

This toy has both a sucking clitoral stimulator and also a G-spot dildo on it. 

It includes 10 suction levels and 3 speeds/ 7 patterns for the G-spot vibrator. Just place it over your G-spot, and it’ll do the rest. 

And like all the other toys on this list, the toy is waterproof and USB-rechargeable! 

Honorable Mention – Solace

Okay, there are only six toys on here, but I briefly wanted to go over the Solace, a male stroker from Lovense that also thrusts automatically. 

I want to give arthritic men (or those assigned male at birth) as much love as arthritic women. If you’re a couple, you can even pair different Lovense toys with each other. 

Tips and Preparation for Pain-Free Play

Take Pain Medicine Before You Play

If you take arthritis painkillers, take them before playing. Ideally, you should wait an hour before sex for best results. 

That being said, take them as directed by your doctor! You should never abuse painkillers or use them as a substitute for therapy and lifestyle changes. 

Use Pillows for Support

Elevation pillows may help your arthritic pain. Normal pillows may help as well, but elevated pillows that you can get on sites such as Lovehoney are specially designed for great sex when you’re in pain. 

Not only that, but these pillows are heavier than ordinary cushions and are often designed to fit you, or multiple people. 

Try Different Positions

If one position feels better, try that! In general, side (spooning) positions can be ideal for arthritis, but everyone is different. 

I’d recommend writing your own arthritic Kama Sutra. Ideally, you should purchase a toy that can adapt to several positions without much trouble. 

Experimenting with different positions can also make using a vibrator more comfortable. Our guide on how to use a vibrator during sex covers different ways to incorporate one without putting unnecessary strain on your body.

Warm Up Stiff Joints First

Just like a good workout, you should warm up first to prevent injury. 

Taking a hot shower, using heating pads, or performing gentle warm-up exercises can make your experience all the better. 

Also, consider using a waterproof toy that will last even when in the shower.

Use Plenty of Lubricant

Lubing your toys can help reduce pain and improve pleasure. With toys, be sure to apply a water-based lubricant regularly during sex. 

You can also use silicone lubes that don’t need as much re-application. 

That said, silicone lube can damage silicone toys. So you should only use that lube with a penis, or a toy made from a material like glass. 

Take Breaks When Needed

Unless you’re into some masochist play, you should never feel pain when having sex or using sex toys! 

If something hurts, it’s your body telling you to slow things down. Take a break, and then return when you’re feeling up to it. 

Choose Lighter Toys

Look, bigger is not always better! I love my weighted toys, but if my hands ever become arthritic, I’m getting myself something lighter. 

Luckily, today’s toys manage to be quite powerful without being too heavy. That said, always read the weight before buying, and know your limits.

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