Last Updated on October 3, 2023 by Kelly
Don’t be scared off by the extreme-sounding title; using vibrators in public can actually be totally lowkey!
However, you shouldn’t whip out your wand toy at the coffee shop, as that could result in some legal issues and would disrupt everyone’s morning.
Instead, I’m talking about discreet, wearable sex toys that you can use in public to enjoy low-key vibes without anyone noticing!
I know for beginners it seems hard to believe, but read on to learn more about your options for public play and which toys are the best for the experience.
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Our Top Sex Toys For Public Play
As a result of years of experimenting with wearable vibrators, we have a few that stand out as the best toys for public use.
These toys include the Lovense Lush 3 for internal g-spot stimulation, the We-Vibe Moxie for external clit stimulation, and more.
We also considered not just toys for g-spot and internal stimulation but also toys that pleasure the anus and clitoris.
Anyone should be able to enjoy the pleasure of public play. We also made sure to pick toys that are priced appropriately and body-safe.
In terms of public play, we recommend the Lovense Lush 3, the We-Vibe Moxie, the We-Vibe Chorus, the Lovense Hush 2, the Ohmibod Esca 2, and the Lovense Ambi.
We tried to get as wide a range of toy types and styles as possible, but also focused on the maximum pleasure possible.
What To Consider When Choosing a Vibrator For Public Play
What do we consider when choosing the “best” toys for this category? Unlike most comparisons, it’s not just a matter of the strongest motor or the best orgasm, though those are important
It is also important to consider other qualities that you might not always think of first when shopping for a new toy.
Qualities like size, noise level, battery life, materials, and how easy a toy is to travel with are all essential for making sure your public play experience is easy and safe.
Another essential quality to consider is a toy’s remote-control features and the strength of its Bluetooth or Wifi connectivity.
You do not want to have to keep troubleshooting your Bluetooth connection with a toy that’s already inside you. Plus, it is a bummer to lose control in the middle of a session.
It also makes sense to download the remote apps of the different toys and consider how you enjoy their design and functionality.
Does it seem like this app will be easy for you or your partner to use when you’re out doing the deed? Does the app seem buggy or keep quitting, or is it stable and easy to use?
What Are The Best Remote-Control Vibrators for Public Play?
As you can see, there are a lot of qualities and features to consider when buying a toy specifically for public play. But I know sometimes too many options can feel like a burden!
To make the decision easier for you, we have compiled a list of vibrator toys that we think are optimized for public play.
They have their own distinct features and each toy has something special that sets it apart.
We have enjoyed each of these toys for their own specific reasons and have returned to them multiple times for different public play sessions, whether alone or with a partner.
Lovense Lush 3
The Lush 3 is the top-selling wearable egg vibrator from Lovense, the leading name in teledildonics.
The Lovense Lush 3 is a great choice for public play because of its ergonomic shape for insertion, discreet vibrations, clit-stimulation, and remote-control functions.
When inserted, the Lush 3’s rumbly vibrations are barely audible. It also has a curved, extended tail that reaches out externally to provide light stimulation to the clit.
The Lush 3 also has an incredible battery life, lasting up to 4 hours continually.
The Lush 3 is a popular toy in the world of public play. In fact, you might have even seen some viral videos of couples enjoying their Lush and the Lovense Remote app in public.
Whether playing solo or having your partner control the toy using the app, the Lush 3 will feel amazing and will bring you to delightful orgasms.
See my full review of the lush here.
We-Vibe Moxie
The We-Vibe Moxie is a delightful little panty vibrator from We-Vibe. We-Vibe is well known for its toys for couples and their remote-control toys.
The Moxie remains firmly in place through magnets that clip onto the panties. The toy presses against the vulva and clitoris to provide lovely, orgasm-inducing vibrations.
For those who prefer clit stimulation or who primarily use it as a method of getting off, then an external toy like the Moxie is the best way to go for public play.
The Moxie is small and thin and remains between the thighs easily.
You don’t have to worry too much about it being seen through your clothes but maybe skip on the skin-tight leather pants this time.
The Moxie is a great choice for beginners to public play because it is entirely external.
If you are worried about adjusting to the feeling of a toy inside you for an extended period of time, try starting out slowly.
Another great option for a panty vibrator is the Lovense Ferri. See my full comparison of the We-Vibe Moxies vs. Lovense Ferri by clicking here.
We-Vibe Chorus
The We-Vibe Chorus is a lightweight, insertable dual-vibrator that is designed for g-spot and clit stimulation.
You might have heard of the Chorus as a great toy for couples because it can be worn during intercourse.
But thanks to its high-quality vibrations and range of vibration patterns, it works just as well for solo play.
The Chorus is so compact and lightweight that you might just forget you have it inserted. It travels easily and has a strong battery life.
If you are having trouble deciding between an egg vibrator for g-spot stimulation and a panty vibrator for clit stimulation, the Chorus is a happy medium.
The toy has two separate motors for both areas. You can also control the different motors separately on the app.
That could be a really fun activity for your partner to work on while they take control of the remote.
Lovense Hush 2
Of course, having a vagina should not be a prerequisite for enjoying the physical pleasures of public play. Anyone can get off with internal stimulation in public, especially with a plug like the Hush 2.
The Hush 2 is the sleek, body-friendly butt plug from Lovense. The Hush 2 comes in two sizes depending on your comfort and familiarity with anal insertion.
The Hush 2 is made of 100% body-safe materials and has a smooth, silicone finish. It stays in the body comfortably thanks to its spiral design at the base.
The Hush 2 also has the powerful vibration motors that Lovense is well known for. It provides amazing prostate stimulation without feeling too intrusive to the body.
Plugs are known for staying in place pretty well, and the Hush proves that strongly. Be sure to use plenty of water-based lube with this toy in particular.
With the Lovense Remote app, you can also customize your vibration patterns and save them for later use.
If you are flying solo and want to be able to focus on the sensations without fiddling around with buttons, making your pattern ahead of time is a great option.
Ohmibod Esca 2
Like the Lovense Lush, the Ohmibod Esca 2 is an egg-shaped and wearable vibrator that provides some clit stimulation as well.
The Ohmibod Esca 2 can be controlled remotely with the Ohmibod remote app. Setup and use is simple with the app’s straightforward design and control.
The Esca is a versatile toy and it can be synced with adult content like 3D videos and games. It’s also a favorite of cam models.
One thing to keep in mind with the Esca is its LED Light function. This can be a lot of fun when it’s shining light under the sheets, but not as fun when it gives you away in public.
Fortunately, it’s an easy fix and the user manual will guide you through how to keep the light off.
Ohmibod toys like the Esca can also be synced to an Apple Watch and will sync up to your heart rate.
This could be a fun option if you are controlling the toy on your own and want a hands-free experience.
Lovense Ambi
With up to 2 hours of continuous use, body-safe materials, and multiple options for positioning, the Ambi is not your typical bullet vibrator.
You might think that any small vibrator will do for being discreet in public, but you don’t want your toy to die out in the middle of a session or to have to manually shift the controls.
The Ambi will last up to 2 hours and can be turned on and controlled using the Lovense Remote app.
Unlike other bullet vibrators, the Ambi stays in place nicely thanks to its alternative shape. You can arrange it along or inside the vulva in a variety of ways.
This makes it a great toy for intercourse, but it also means you can arrange it to your preference while out in public.
Of course, depending on your location you may not want to be reaching down towards your groin too much.
But if you are in a private enough place or have something covering you, go to town with the Ambi and enjoy all of its angles.
Your partner watching from the other end will enjoy the show.
Types of Public Play You Can Try
Self-play with external stimulation is best done with an external toy like the We-Vibe Moxie or the Lovense Ambi, but you can make it work with other toys.
If you are playing on your own, you may want to control the toy using an app on your phone or try to adjust it discreetly.
Self-play with internal stimulation is easy with insertable toys like the Lovense Lush 3 and Ohmibod Esca 2.
You will want to make sure you have a remote control option for using internal toys, as they are difficult to readjust when you might have prying eyes on you.
It feels best to sit down or add pressure to your groin when enjoying internal stimulation in public. If you can’t find a seat, try leaning against a counter.
Couple play with external stimulation means your partner takes the reins with the remote control. This will be especially helpful with a company with high-quality Bluetooth connectivity like Lovense.
When your partner is in control, you might not be able to adjust your levels as quickly as you would when controlling on your own.
The best way to enjoy the experience is to ride the wave of whatever they’re sending you and adjust your body as needed to get the most out of the sensations.
Couple play with internal stimulation is one of the most fun ways to enjoy public play. The sensations are spectacular and it’s so fun to squirm and react when your partner is watching.
Be sure to try moving around with a toy inside of you, especially a shapely toy like the Lovense Lush 3 that is sure to stay in place.
You will be amazed at how g-spot stimulation feels when you are walking or even dancing.
Also Read: How To Wear a Butt Plug in Public
Things To Consider Before Trying Discreet Public Play
1. Choosing The Right Location
Probably the first thing you need to consider with public play is what type of public space you want to be in. Your experience can vary greatly based on where you choose.
A few popular spots for public play include outdoor locations like parks, pools, and cafes and indoor locations like movie theaters, stores, and bars.
Your location is about what works for you and your partner, so if these ideas don’t sound appealing think about where you will feel most comfortable.
Along with comfort, you want to consider how discreet you can be at this location and if you will be able to make a quick getaway.
Make sure your location will have a high enough ambient noise level that your toy won’t be overheard. Bonus points if you can sigh or moan without anyone noticing.
You also want to be especially careful that you do not choose a location where you might risk misbehaving in front of minors.
2. Use Your Vibrator At Home First
Imagine taking your new car for an 8-hour road trip when you haven’t even tested it in the dealership parking lot. You know how to drive, but you’d still be risking a lot, right?
It is always a good idea to try out any toy in your home before taking it out in public.
Every toy has its own quirks and you want to make sure you have complete control over all of its functions, especially if you’re working with a Bluetooth remote.
It will be important to pair your toy with the remote at home so you’re not fiddling around with your devices.
You will also want to try out your toy and get a feel for its sensations and strength. You don’t want to be surprised by a toy’s turbo mode when you’re sitting in a restaurant.
Also, consider how the toy feels against or inside your body. Is it comfortable or do you need to readjust how you insert it? Does this feel like a toy you can keep on you for a few hours?
If you are a beginner to public play, you should be completely certain about all those questions before you take your toy out in public.
3. Use Lube
If you are using an insertable vibrator you should make sure to use lube, even if you feel prepared down there.
Public play can make some people nervous and cause them (and their organs) to tense up. This is another reason to practice with your toy before taking it out.
Lube will help you feel comfortable with the toy inside of you for an extended period. It is also helpful to bring the lube with you in case you need to head to the bathroom to reapply.
Lube will prevent any discomfort or raw feeling you might get from using a toy. On that end, be sure that you clean your toy before and after use.
Most people want to make the most of their public playtime by having as long of a session as possible. It makes sense because of all the planning and prep it takes beforehand.
To make sure the extended play session is comfortable, lube is the way to ensure the toy stays in your body easily. Of course, don’t overdo it because that could have the opposite effect.
4. Check Your Toy Is Quiet Enough (Mention the Noise Level Needs to Be Lower than 50db)
Do not be deceived: just because a toy looks small and unassuming does not mean it will be the most discreet toy for public play.
Do your research before buying and make sure you get a quiet vibrator. Some toys are specifically marketed as quiet vibrations.
To be appropriately quiet for public play, your toy should get no louder than around 50 decibels. Most toys will share this information on their website or in their user manual.
But don’t just trust the marketing. Once you get your toy, you should also experiment with the sound levels at home before taking it out.
Consider the noise differences when the toy is inserted versus how it sounds when it’s external.
Leave the toy on your bed and move a few feet away to see if you can still hear it. This will also help you gauge how much distance you need from others when you’re out and about for real.
Another way to test would be to turn on a podcast, music, or even a video of an ambient cafe as background noise. Turn it to the natural level to see if this ambient sound would be audible in public.
Turn on your toy and see how the buzz compares to the chit-chat of the podcast. If you’re having trouble hearing the hum, you should be in a good spot to try public play next.
Verdict – Will You Consider Using a Vibrator in Public?
Public play was one of the activities that really spiced up my sex life with my current partner. It is also what got us so into teledildonics and remote-control toys in the first place.
I also balked at the concept when I first heard about it. It sounded a little too risky and kinky for my taste, even for someone who has always loved using toys.
But I am glad I decided to give it a go. There are now just so many ways to enjoy the pleasures of public play easily and discreetly with the toys available today.
It is so fun to have my partner looking like he’s tapping around on a game on his phone but he’s actually raising and lowering the vibrations on my Lush 3.
Remote apps like the Lovense Remote app have really changed the game for public play.
Even for toys that came with their own handheld remote, I can’t imagine trying to look discreet when you whip out a random remote.
Thank goodness we have Bluetooth-enabled toys and functional apps to make this process so simple.
So, should you try public play for yourself? I think yes.
Consider all of the suggestions and risk assessments above and tell your partner that you’re interested in trying out public play.
Or, take things into your own hands and try some solo play with either an internal or external toy.
Public play may not be for everyone but as long as you are being careful and consensual with everyone involved, I highly suggest trying it at least once in your life.